Blow Jobs!!!

Blow jobs, sucking cock, smoking pipe (WTF?), fellatio – our culture is obsessed. Since the store opened we’ve offered workshops on blow jobs. Many of our workshops sell out, but blow jobs? We could see out a BJ workshop at 2 am in the middle of a blizzard. And most of the attendees would be straight women.

Where does this obsession come from? Maybe it’s from the fact that most folks want to do a good job when they have sex. That sucking on that genital bit that’s really obviously is sticking out from a partner seems like a no brainer. But if it was this straight forward, why do we want to learn more?

I think it’s that we have an idea that penises and clitorises are dramatically different from each other. Or that, because someone doesn’t have a penis, they can’t have the information they need to give an amazing blow job. The truth is, having a penis doesn’t mean that the other penis likes the same things, and, biologically, penises and clitorises aren’t that different from each other. As I always say, men aren’t from Mars, women aren’t from Venus, we’re all from vagina. All genital structures come from the same basic stuff. A penis is essentially a big clitoris with fewer nerve endings.

So, here are some quick blow job tips:

Treat a blow job like a chance to make out with the penis.

Avoid using teeth (obviously)

Listen to your partner – when they’re making good noises, keep doing what you’re doing

You don’t have to deep throat, but if you want to, we can probably teach you how

Want to learn more? Check out 4-Play: The One About BlowJobs on February 10th at the Creative Alliance  or Ducky Doolittle’s workshop Hips, Lips andFingertips: How to Please Your Man February 18th at the store.